So I've been single long enough that I've resorted to using technology to survey the guys in the area, in hopes of meeting someone of interest. Now I say resorted, but I am not in the least bit desperate to meet someone. I'm just finding it hard to meet people outside my current circles unless I'm drunk at a bar and I don't want someone to think I'm coming onto them in a sleezy way.
Anyway, I used an app on my phone and chat to guys here and there. I figure it's a fairly safe forum. Sure someone can steal my face pic, but when a creepy guy asks me my "position" I can easily end the conversation and if I choose block them.
On Tuesday of this week I was staying late at work (until 11pm actually... I'm stubborn but that's another story) and I noticed a guy online that I've never seen locally before. Handsome guy around 28 years old. It was later in the evening, and again, being concerned about the perception they may have of me messaging that late at night I decided against saying hi.
Then Wednesday on my lunch break I was online and he was there again. I debating saying hello but questioned what I would follow it up with, knowing nothing about the person. I've got no game apparently. Anyway, I didn't need to, it wasn't too long before he started chatting me up. Initially with the... hey, how are you... what's up... where do you work. Small, innocent chit chat. Then he said... I've got to say you're probably one of the best looking guys on here. I was kinda floored and surely had a big goofy grin across my face. I thanked him and told him I thought he was handsome also. And he said... I'm not usually this forward but would you like to hang out some evening this week.
I debated, maybe 5 seconds, that perhaps he was only looking for sex, but my curiosity won over and I accepted and told him I had some plans but I would be free around 930 or 10pm. Surprisingly that worked out well with his evening. We agreed around 10 pm.
When the time came and I was ready to leave he asked where we should meet. He was staying at a hotel downtown so I suggested meeting in Parade Square, since I wasn't comfortable with the hotel setting. He agreed and off I drove. I soon found myself standing in the centre of the square wondering if he'd really look like the person in the picture. I was pleasantly surprised. He was maybe a little shorter than I expected but handsome with a kind smile.
We decided to go to the Economy Shoe Shop for a drink and a bite to eat, since he hadn't had supper. We found a spot on the patio, ordered a couple of Strongbows and artichoke dip. And conversation flowed naturally. We discussed career, family, travel and even past relationships. It was absolutely relaxed and comfortable. I found myself very conscious of my body cues of interest. My body had naturally aligned to be directed towards him and I was sitting closer than I had started out. And I'm pretty certain he was enjoying the night as much as I was.
Upon completing our second drink he suggest we take off. He asked if I wanted to stop in to his room for a minute before heading home. I did, unsure of his intentions and to be honest unsure if I had any of my own.
Soon we were just casually laying on the bed next to each other watching CNN and talking. It all felt remarkably comfortable. And after a while he kissed me. It was very sweet actually; not obscene in any way. And other than some snuggling and him pretty much falling asleep against my chest, nothing happened.
I got up to leave and on my way out gave him my phone number and told him I hoped he would use it the next day, because I'd like to see him again. And he said he certainly would. I walked down the hall wondering what just happened. Cause I'm never one to be direct enough to let someone know my feelings from the start.
The next morning I got a great text and a facebook friend request. Although we didn't get to see each other again, because he had an exam and interviews, before heading home to another province, he agreed that he would definitely see me again and was returning to Halifax in early June.
It's strange but I feel like there's something about this guy. It could totally be that I'm ready for a relationship... but I believe it's more. He's someone who is unlike any other gay guy I've met so far and I'm really hoping I get to see him again soon.
Up to you universe... work your magic!