Monday, April 18, 2011

Once a cheater, always a cheater?

I had an interaction recently with a friend that seemed very awkward.  Initially I wasn't quite sure why things felt that way.  The conversation wasn't forced and followed a logical path, however the body language was off enough for me to pick up on it.  I tried to blow it off on the fact we haven't hung out in a while.

That all changed when I rounded a corner and saw a formal friend.  It became obvious to me that the awkward interaction was due to him hoping I would not realize his true reason for being in the place at the time.  A place no where near where he lives.

Two things crossed my mind, did he have the odd body language because he was hoping to control the situation so this other person wouldn't see our friendly interaction?  Or was he almost caught visiting this formal friend inappropriately?

The friend I spoke with has a boyfriend and they've been together for some time.  I'm not implying that he'd cheat but I do know they, at least, on occasion invite a third person into their bedroom.  I don't judge that choice but I also don't endorse it.  I'm clearly not one to judge because I'm not in their relationship and I'm not successful at romantic relationships to date.

The former friend, however, is a known cheater.  He seems like a catch from the outside but I know parts of his past that have a shady track-record.  It's ultimately the reason I had to end the friendship because the over-spilling drama was starting to be too much for me to handle when I was being questioned on past conversations I supposedly shared.

This former friend has a relatively new boyfriend, so I find it hard to believe he'd cheat on him, but this questionable private interactions make me wonder if one can ever really live outside a triangle once they are involved in them repeatedly.

Once a cheater, always a cheater?? 


Blair said...

Hmmm. I would lump cheaters into a class known as addicts, so I suppose if the person sought help in some form of sex addiction therapy, they might be able to reform their ways. Hard to say. That whole threesome things opens a big can of worms for all involved.

Just Words On A Page said...

once a cheater, always a cheater. Always. Always. Always. It's just that black and white for me.

Threesomes are fine -- you have three consenting adults who are all present and participating. Granted you always have the guest star but that's another post all together:)

But yep, once a cheater always a cheater. You keep honing that spidey sense of yours and never distrust your instincts. They'll save your bacon every time.

Nice blog, I think I will be back:)